Where do I go from here?

Well, life is never easy, but one can find humor in the little things. I am 41 and finally I hit the moment when it I even cared. They say a woman finds herself later in life and it is so very true. Even if I didn't lose my identity in raising children or in the men I had relationships, I am definitely a more secure human now. Unlike most women, I didn't have to wait till the kids leave home or the husband to complete their 10 yr. training for being married to contemplate "Who am I"; I did have to face "Where do I go from here?" I did learn quickly to live for the now and not for the "Ifs". If only...If they...If he...If GOD... "Ifs" leave you in lingering situations that doesn't get you to solutions to live your life. Find the most positive part of you use it to change the negative things that life sometimes give you. Change won't happen in specific time period, but it will happen faster when the "If" factor isn't in your way.